Comments on: It seems odd to me

By: jaelea331

jaelea331 — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 04:37:53 +0000

I totally understand what you are saying. And I wasn’t writing to anyone in general. It’s mainly a family thing. Yes, I am uncomfortable with the way things are, and I’m working on that. and as far as the stuff, we’ve been dealing with certain people informing us that we need to “upgrade” our lives. I’ve grown up in a VERY judgemental household, as you know, so it’s hard for me to not judge myself. No one can judge me any harsher then I do myself. It’s hard to let go of bad habits. Still a work in progress. <3
Thank you for your honesty. It was just one of those venting days. A lot going on, I needed to get it out. Ya know?

By: Rachel Rowell

Rachel Rowell — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 04:25:28 +0000

No, you shouldn’t become someone you aren’t. You should just be you. Don’t ever think any different.

Having things aren’t bad. Things can be a blessing if have the ability to be blessed enough to have them and not let it change who you are inside. And you’re right, things don’t define you.

Lack of things is also not a blessing. You just have to learn to find a balance in all of it. It’s funny to me that people with things can’t judge people without, but people without things can judge people with things and it’s acceptable. Make any sense??

People sometimes tend to think that people with things are pregidous, when the truth is, people without things are usually just as pregidous. It’s just that people somehow think it’s fair to not judge them for it.

The key to everything in life is balance. We have to know how to allow ourselves to be blessed and balance it with not thinking more highly of ourselves than we should. No person is better than another. Period.

I have tried to be the friend who isn’t bothered at all by who you are, or the way you describe your home as being, and yet what you don’t see it, you are actually the one more bothered by your house when I’m there than I am. The truth is, your discomfort makes me feel uncomfortable for you. And I hate that. I don’t want you to feel like I’m judging you. But I feel like you spend more time judging yourself and your own life than others do.

My family would come to your home and eat or whatever anytime and not be bothered, but the truth is, it’s you who is bothered.

And I absolutely don’t mean any of this is a bad way. You just have to step back and look at it from both sides to give fair judgement calls on things.

I love you, and you know I’m always here. I haven’t gone anywhere. But in friendship, there is not place or room for judgment or jealousy. Period. I’ve never, not one time judged your life. But if you’re waiting for me to fail you, I probably won’t dissapoint that expectation because I am SO far from perfect.