I mean this is the most sincere way and in no way pass judgement on anyone.
Why do people choose to live together, sometimes have children together, but never get married?
Why is that anymore of a commitment then living together or having kids?
I personally think that having children, is more of a commitment to someone than anything. Could someone answer this? I’ve asked several people and they can’t really give me an answer that makes any sense.
Just curious.
jaelea331
I think people are afraid of committment.Me and buddy have some friends that are living together and they have a son.And I believe they’re engaged,but haven’t tied the knot.When me an buddy got engaged,I was excited of course.But then someone gave me a lecture and I’m glad he did.He said their’s no back door in marriage.Marraige is a committment.I know people think we’re crazy or whatever,when I tell them we’re not gonna let our kids date until their 18.In the bible I pretty sure it’s Jacob when he was ready God told him to go out and look for a wife.God didn’t say go out and find your main squeeze or a girlfriend,or someone to shack up with.He said go out and find a wife.Now we’re not gonna wait until Haley’s 16 to tell her she can’t date until she’s 18.We’re gonna start early.We’re gonna read the bible and teach them what the bible says everyday.People say it will be hard to keep them from dating.Not really.Keep them in church.That’s how kids end up pregnant.Our preachers 3 kids are all off in college.And they were taught they couldn’t date until they were 18.And that’s the furthest thing from their mind right now.I got off the subject alittle bit,but I felt compelled to say that.Well that’s what I think about living together.I hope that helps Jenny
By: Brenda on January 2, 2009
at 9:02 am
I had something to write about this topic, BUT it is all said wonderfully from someone before me.
I also work with some of these people on a regular basis. (That is part of my ministry you know) To some – and only some – they do not know better. “Everyone else is doing it”. “Life with so and so is better than living with my own parents”
We have 2 couples right now who have had or are due next month that are planning on getting married. Life at home was HORRID! Condone the actions? nah. Understand the actions? yea. We keep living Christ in front of them. That is our job. We can’t shove it down their throats. But we can love them where they are at – kinda like Jesus did with the ’sinners’. They see a difference. They know something isn’t quite right. When the Spirit does the ‘pricking of the hearts’ we’ll be ready with the answers and the love they need.
I don’t know that this helped at all, but I do like to put in my two cents worth in occasionally.
Love you my sister,
Cori
By: Cori on January 9, 2009
at 6:38 pm